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Why Do I Say "My People", And What The Fuck Kind Of Shit Is That?

You will see me use terms like “my people”, “our people”, or “our tribe” throughout. What the hell does that mean? Whelp, you’re in luck, little fella cause I’m gonna tell ya. There is no straight answer, which I say not to be obnoxious, but because it’s complex. It’s in no way associated with a vanity or ego issue, and is not some sort of clique or attempt to elevate myself or anyone else above another individual or group. In fact, if you’re one of my people, or I’m part of your people, those characteristics are something you have no tolerance for.


So instead of trying to give you a definitive definition that doesn’t exist, I’ll talk through the some of the characteristics, some that are subtle, some not. These are not requirements or some sort of list of qualifications for some weird special club. If anything, it’s a tool for you to use to determine if you should read on.


If you hate being told what you can and can't say or do by a 25 year old who comes from a privileged family, who was never told "no" by their parents, were never taught that they could be and often were wrong, or taught how failure can be a good thing, you and I might have been cut from the game cloth.


If you refuse to stop trying to inject anything you do in life or are involved in with your career, with a heavy dose of fun and humor, in whatever form that takes, we may be cut from the same cloth.



If you find repugnant, those people who make statements or conduct their daily lives or business in a manner which wilfully ignores the potential for negative or adverse impacts they may be having on the world around them, and when challenged explain that it is in fact they who are the victims, and should be lauded for such emotional bravery.... And you know that are full of shit and are actually just weak narcissistic sociopaths, we are probably cut from the same cloth.


If all three of those examples apply to you, we are cut from that cloth, we are born of the same tribe, I am your people, and you are my people. We fall everywhere along the political spectrum and are members of all religions and spiritual belief groups.


Being of the same tribe is a lot of things, but it's not a lot of things too, and many of the things it’s not are important t address. We will very likely see eye to eye on a lot of issues, some very specific, but will NOT always agree on a lot more. Many of those issues we diverge on will probably being very VERY controversial politically, socially, and religiously. That's, however, is OK, and highlights a key characteristic we share. When confronted with an opinion or statement that doesn’t align with or values or beliefs, we do not (normally) allow our discussion to devolve into that of cantankerous toddlers and have screaming matches, call each other names, sling mud, refuse to engage in character assassination of each other, ever. Not in person, not online, and not when watching porn. (still with me?)


We listen, we hear, we let each other explain how the issue looks from their eyes. We enter into discussions and debates not to try and change anyone's minds or opinions, not to try and undermine the other person’s belief system in order to 'win' an argument, and not in an attempt to make someone feel foolish. In fact, we go into these discussions, every discussion, no matter how well versed in the subject matter we are, always consciously open to one possible caveat:


We could actually be fucking wrong.


We know there is always a possibility that we didn't have a specific data point, or we were not giving enough weight to some variable, or we simply made a mistake. This potential, or realized error is not something we are ashamed of or try to obfuscate. Instead, we almost wear it as a badge of honor, and never hesitate to let someone who may have compelled you to change a specific opinion or position, even if just slightly, that they were responsible for that, and express gratitude for it.


Instead of attempting to change someone's opinion, something that is nearly impossible, we make our best effort to articulate how we arrived at the conclusions that we have. We understand that an individual is the only ones who truly understand what the world looks like to them. We accept that every single person on this planet perceives and interprets EVERY event and experience through their own unique prism. This prism is dynamic, constantly changing, and is formed and shaped by the sum of your life's experiences.


If you think I’m actually talking about a piece of glass you’re supposed to have, you do, and should stop reading this ad hurry up and go find it, retard. GO! Or I’ll tell on you!


If you recognize that the idealistic imaginary lives that so many people think they want is nothing but bullshit, we’re the same. We may have had those same types of Rat-Race, Keeping-Up-With-The-Joneses impulses in our past, and maybe for a long period of time. In fact you may still have them, but you are open to pondering that what you just read may deserve some further pondering. I have a saying, “The absence of money will certainly bring misery, however a surplus will not bring you happiness.”.


Are people with $45,000,000 in the bank unhappier than those with $75,000,000? I’ll concede those are not realistic for the 99%, so what’s the point? At what point does the happiness one finds from greater wealth start to flatten out? Does it? Beats me, I’ll never know, and honestly don’t care. What I do know is that from March 2002 to October 2004, I was a full time college student, a full time flight instructor, lived in an area with one of the highest cost of living indices in the country, was making the least amount of income I had since joining the US Army 7 years before, and have never made less since. So why in God’s name would I tell people it was one of the happiest times of my life?


Because those who are driven ONLY by money, wealth, and some asinine utopia they created in their mind are fucking bullshit, it means nothing. Those who correlate wealth and income with their importance or elevation in society are doomed to misery because they are trying to replace the happiness we draw from our people and the relationships with them with financial status. I’m not trying to say anyone should stop trying to kill it and make boatloads of cheddar. If that’s what drives you, go forth, conquer. But goddamn it if you place that priority above people or think it’s how to find that joy in life you so want but don’t have, I’m sorry, you’ll never get it.


Anyway, if that's you, makes sense to you, inspires you, we're each other's people. If that sounds like a bunch of new age sissy bullshit, yeah, that means you are not one of my people, and I'm pleased to report to you that I've just wasted your time. Why pleased? Because generally speaking, if you're not one of us, you're out looking to spew your toxins into whatever you can, and take more than you give. So if I distracted you for that time, that means you weren't out being an asshole for that time, and I call that a win! Good day.

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